Communication is a tool for consistently pulling each other closer together. By freely communicating with your spouse, you open the doors to nourishing and growing your relationship. It builds trust, understanding, and closeness with one another. Though it can be challenging, it takes a conscious effort on both of your parts to improve communication in your marriage.
In this blog post, I’m sharing:
✅ Practical tips to help you communicate more effectively
✅ Meaningful conversation starters to keep you connected
✅ How understanding the 5 Love Languages can transform your relationship
Whether your marriage feels strong or a little distant right now, these tools can help you pull closer together.
TIPS FOR BETTER COMMUNICATION
- Make consistent eye contact. This shows you are listening to them.
- Pay attention to non-verbal communication. Communication is not all verbal.
- Do not interrupt. Aim to wait your turn. Did you know the average person only listens for 17 secs to the person that is doing the talking before they interrupt them?
- Be intentional about spending time together.
- Listen without being defensive.
- Stay in the present. Do not continue to bring up the past.
- Avoid screaming or yelling.
- Be honest with one another.
THINGS TO TALK ABOUT IN YOUR MARRIAGE
So you know communication is very important in a relationship. But what if you don’t know what to talk about. I am going to give you some suggestions that may help you in this area.
1. Ask your spouse how their walk with the Lord is going.
2. Is there anything that has happened in the home that needs to be addressed before bitterness sets in?
3. Come up with some parenting questions such as: Are you on the same page when it comes to the rules for the kids?
4. And what about the household chores? If you expect him or her to do something and they don’t know that you expected them to do it then you will feel frustrated that it didn’t get done.
5. Talk about work-life and or work outside of the house.
6. Talk about money and your finances. This is very important as most relationships don’t last due to not being on the same page as their spouse when it comes to money.
7. And talk about goals that you may have as a couple.
Make a plan to start talking. Maybe do it when the kids are all to bed. Set up a time but gradually start out with a few questions so that you don’t feel overwhelmed.
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LEARN EACHOTHERS LOVE LANGUAGE
What I mean by love language is how you would express and receive love. There are 5 love languages and everyone has one. Let me explain what they are.
Words of affirmations – saying supportive and loving words to your spouse. Example: telling your spouse you love them
Acts of service – doing helpful things for your spouse. Example: making your spouse’s favorite dinner
Receiving gifts – giving your spouse gifts that tell them you were thinking of them. Example: sending your spouse flowers
Quality time – spending meaningful time with your spouse. Example: having a date night
Physical touch – being close to and caressed by your spouse (different from being intimate with your spouse) Example: holding hands
Each of us differs in the ways that we receive love or want to be loved. Learning to give love in the ways that our spouse can best receive the love can create stronger relationships. Do any of the 5 love languages speak to you? Which one best describes what you would want your spouse to do more of?
Then once you know your love language, you will have to communicate and tell your spouse what you want them to do more of. Tell your spouse what makes you feel loved. What would fill your love tank.
This isn’t one sided. You will then need to show your spouse love in the ways that they want to receive it. Have them tell you what things would make them feel loved. I believe that doing so will help with your communication and bless your marriage.
CONCLUSION
I wish I could say that this is easy. But it takes work and dedication from both parties in order for the marriage to be beautiful. I can tell you that my husband and I were separated for 2 years and the biggest reason was due to not communicating in our marriage. We did not regularly check in with one another. We didn’t take the time to sit down and ask each other how our day went.
We focused on each other’s love language. Once we knew each other’s love language things started to heal in our relationship.
My husband and I swear by the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It will be a good read if you want to see a dramatic change in your marriage. It will take some time. But if you both work at it I truly believe that marriage can be a beautiful thing.
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