Is your marriage at a breaking point? Do you know how to handle the enemy that is trying to destroy your marriage? An enemy that won’t stop until he gets what he wants. Let me explain to you 4 Biblical strategies to overcome spiritual warfare in your marriage. Strategies that are guaranteed to work.
Marriage can feel like a battlefield sometimes. Small disagreements turn into big arguments. Miscommunication leads to frustration. And before you know it, you start seeing your spouse as the problem instead of recognizing what is really happening behind the scenes.
But what if the real issue isn’t your spouse at all?
THE 4 STRATEGIES TO OVERCOMING THE ENEMY
Strategy #1 – Recognize your enemy
The devil is your enemy NOT your spouse. I can not stress that enough. The devil wants you to focus on the things your spouse does to annoy you or upset you. He wants your marriage to fall apart. And if you don’t move fast at the first sign of your spouse upsetting you, bitterness and resentment will start to set in.
The bible says Satan comes to kill, steal, and destroy. The apostle Paul urges the church at Corinth not to be ignorant of Satan’s schemes (2 Corinthians 2:11). Because when you are aware of the tactics of the enemy, you will be better equipped to stand against his schemes.
Satan knows better than most what God intends for our marriage to be. He disguises himself as a voice of reason and comes to you in moments that are unguarded. He plants seeds of doubt about things that God has revealed to you already to be true. He is pure evil and wants nothing more than to ruin a healthy marriage.
👉 Once you recognize who the real enemy is, the next step is learning how to respond.
Strategy #2 – Activate God’s strength inside of you
Psalm 18: 39 says, "You have armed me for the battle; you have subdued my enemies under my feet."
2 Samuel 10: 12 says, " Be courageous! Let us fight bravely for our people and the cities of our God. May the Lord's will be done."
You are to know your identity in Christ. Know that you are God’s child and because of that, know that you have His strength within you in order to fight back. When you start to think negatively about a situation or your spouse you need to get in the habit of saying “Get behind me Satan! I am not going to believe anything you tell me.”
👉 Now that you understand where your strength comes from, you need to know what tools God has given you.
Strategy #3 – Know you have spiritual weapons
(Ephesians 6:10–18)
Warriors need weapons. And you have spiritual weapons that you can use to fight off Satan. You can read my blog post “What is the Armor of God” to know how you can use the armor.
Know that you don’t have to struggle alone. The enemy wants you to think you have to deal with the issue all by yourself. But God is there to help you. Tell Him your struggles and fears. Explain to Him what is going on and let Him guide you.
Part of using the Armor of God is recognizing when the enemy is attacking and what to do when he does. Notice when you start to get upset—what are your thoughts? If they are negative and pulling you away from truth, then you know the enemy is trying to step in.
One of the most powerful weapons you have is prayer. And sometimes, in the middle of conflict, it can be hard to know what to pray or where to start—but that’s exactly where breakthrough begins.
👉 The more you use your spiritual weapons, the stronger you become in the battle.
Strategy #4 – See your victory
1 John 5: 4 says, " For every child of God defeats this evil world, and we achieve this victory through our faith.
Priscilla Shirer once said, “We don’t fight for victory, we fight from victory.”
Have faith that your marriage will be ok. Let your faith be bigger than your issue. Give thanks to God that your marriage is already healed and that the issue you and your spouse are fighting over has already been won. Because it has! Declare that you have victory over your marriage and believe it before it even happens (Romans 4:17)! This is showing God you have faith that He will come through for you!
Consider how many times God has protected you and your family from spiritual warfare. Rather than taking God’s blessings for granted, gratefully recall the victories He has given you.
HOW THIS LOOKS IN REAL LIFE
When your spouse says something that hurts you, your first reaction might be to respond in anger or shut down completely.
But instead of reacting, pause and ask yourself:
- What am I thinking right now?
- Does this align with God’s truth?
- Is this the enemy trying to create division?
Then respond with intention instead of emotion.
This is how you fight back—not by attacking your spouse, but by standing firm in truth.
WE MUST BE ON THE ALERT
The enemy can do many things to make sure that your marriage does not stay together. You can become so busy with everyone and everything that you neglect God, your spouse, and your family.
If you are having problems in your marriage, don’t lose hope.
First, look to God to help you.
Second, look within yourself. See if there is anything that you are putting before the Lord. Where are your priorities? Ask God to search you.
Third, confess the sin that God has revealed to you.
And last, pray for God to help you approach your spouse.
You need to approach only with God’s wisdom and not from your own understanding.
TAKE A MOMENT TO REFLECT
Have I been seeing my spouse as the enemy?
Where has the enemy been trying to create division in my marriage?
What is one way I can respond differently today?
PRAYER TO HELP COMBAT THE ENEMY
Heavenly Father, I am coming to you today to ask for help. My marriage is not what it should be and I need your guidance and wisdom. Lord, I ask you to search me and know my heart, test me, and know my anxious thoughts. Point out anything in me that offends you and lead me along your path.
Forgive me for _______. Help me to be a better spouse and to be able to approach my spouse with this issue so that we can be on the same page. So that we can work this issue out together. Thank you for my spouse. And thank you for the love you have for me. In Jesus’ name, I pray Amen.
💛 A NEXT STEP FOR YOU
If this prayer spoke to you and you’re wanting to consistently cover your marriage in prayer, I created a 30-Day Marriage Prayer Devotional to help guide you.
It walks you through Scripture-based prayers so you don’t have to wonder what to say or where to start—especially in difficult seasons.
You can check it out here if you feel led. 💛 Click image.
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